“Sometimes the simplest, most elegant, most life-changing solutions are right in front of our noses. But we can’t see them, because we are locked in to old schemas. A schema is a mental framework that helps organize and interpret information in the world around us. Schemas are essential when we need to act quickly and decisively. But schemas can also be a problem, because sometimes they’re outdated. Or worse, some of our schemas were never correct in the first place…”
In Episode 39 of The Loveable Podcast, we examine the outdated mental rules and practical hurdles that get in the way of us discovering our passions, practicing them, and cultivating a sense of purpose in our lives. By the end of this conversation, you will have greater clarity about what are the actual barriers that stand between you and your passions, and which ones are simply in your head…
Here are just a few of the takeaways from this week’s episode:
- The way to overcome impostor syndrome is not to try convincing yourself that you are not an impostor; rather, try to embrace that we are all making it up as we go.
- Procrastination is almost never a sign of laziness; rather, it is almost always a symptom of fearfulness (in disguise).
- We need both passion and ambition, but we also need to be sure that our ambition is subordinate to our passion.
- Where our passion leads us is relatively inconsequential; it’s the practicing of them that matters most.
- Practicing our passion requires embracing our worthiness even more fully, and leaning on our people even more heavily.
- The things you are wired to do and here to do and love to are all the same thing. That is good news!
- You can ask “What if?” with fear and shame, or with bravery and hope. The former blinds us to possibility; the latter opens our eyes to it.
- Asking ourselves both “What if I fail?” and “What if I succeed?” can reveal limiting beliefs about success and failure that are inaccurate and preventing a resurrected life.
- Asking “What if?” helps us to become a more objective observer of our thoughts and our inaccurate “mental rules” about life.
- A passion is something we are so extravagantly fond of doing that we would be willing to suffer for it if necessary.
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Dr. Kelly Flanagan is a psychologist, author, consultant, and speaker who enjoys walking with people through the three essentials of a truly satisfying life: worthiness, belonging, and purpose. His blog writings have been featured in Reader’s Digest, The Huffington Post, The 5 Love Languages, and the TODAY Show. Kelly is the author of Loveable and True Companions.