Loveable: Embracing What Is Truest About You, So You Can Truly Embrace Your Life


Wise and encouraging, honest and inspiration, Loveable is a handbook for how to be human.” –Katherine Willis Pershey, author of Very Married: Field Notes on Love and Fidelity

In Loveable, Dr. Kelly Flanagan writes, “We rarely remember the precious months or years when we experienced our worthiness as a fact. A given. Something as present, real, and natural as breathing and playing and animal crackers.”


Dr. Flanagan is a clinical psychologist and father known to millions for the letters he writes to his children and shares on his blog. Loveable is written to the little one in each of us, who is all too ready to be reminded: you are enough, you are not alone, and you matter.

In Loveable, Dr. Flanagan reveals the core insight gleaned from his years of clinical work: you are here for a reason, yet you cannot truly awaken to it until you have first embraced your truest, worthiest self and then allowed yourself to be truly embraced by others.

Weaving heart-warming storytelling, gentle insights, and the wisdom of Dr. Flanagan’s Christian tradition—including his belief that we are all “the living, breathing bearers of the eternal, transcendent, and limitless Love that spun the planets and hung the stars”—these pages invite you to remember the name you were given before all other names: Loveable.

“Written like a love letter to his readers, Kelly quiets the noise of shame, while gently inviting us all to listen for another sound—the peaceful, playful, and powerful voice of Grace.” –Aubrey Sampson, author of Overcomer: Breaking Down the Walls of Shame and Rebuilding Your Soul



Click on any of the links below to listen to Kelly discuss topics related to Loveable, including worthiness, belonging, and purpose.

The Open Door Sisterhood Podcast with Krista Gilbert

The Jennifer Fulwiler Show on SiriusXM Radio

Let the Music Play Podcast with Ashton Gustafson

Dear Daughters Podcast with Susie David

Lighten Up Podcast with Melanie Dale

Pairadocs Podcast with Jimmy and Josh Meyers


Kelly graduated with his Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Penn State University and is co-founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL. Several years ago, he discovered writing was the thing he never knew he always wanted to do, so he began the now popular blog, UnTangled, where he writes weekly about how to live redemptive stories right now. Kelly is married to another clinical psychologist named Kelly, because they decided to make life even more complicated than it already is. They Kellies—as they are called by friends and family—have three children, and they have a deal with their kids: they teach the kids how to grow up, and the kids teach them how to grow young again. So far, it’s not clear who is helping who the most. They live in northern Illinois.


Loveable is available in paperback, digital, and audio and can be purchased wherever books are sold, so you can also purchase it at your favorite bookseller.