“If you were given permission to simply be more you, what would you do? Start speaking up? Standing up? Standing out? Walking out? Reaching out? Pouring out? Sitting in? Giving in? Giving up? Opening up? To what? Dance lessons? Photography school? Medical school? Dropping out of school? Starting a band? Starting a business? Starting a movement? Dominoes? Why wait? After all, you weren’t created to be successful. You were created to be you.”
In Episode 44 of The Loveable Podcast, we challenge the belief that what we are passionate about doing must make a difference in the world, that it must matter in some particularly measurable way. By the end of this episode, I think you will be more motivated to begin practicing your passions, not because they are one way to be meaningful, but because they are the only way to be truly you.
Here are just a few of the takeaways from this week’s episode:
- A sense of meaning is not the reason for practicing our passions; it’s the byproduct of practicing them.
- We don’t make a difference by trying to make a difference; we make a difference by becoming different, by becoming someone free to live out our true selves by doing the things we love to do in the world.
- Meaning doesn’t flow from trying to be meaningful; it follows from faithfully practicing our passions and letting the meaning take care of itself.
- The unique thing about practicing a passion is that the failures you experience while practicing it are worth it.
- If people’s responses to our passions are a motivation for practicing them, we will almost never get started.
- Encouragement of our passions may come from unexpected quarters; that is one way we gain increased clarity about our circles of belonging.
- We don’t practice our passions because we think they will matter—we practice them in spite of the fact they probably won’t matter.
- Growing up isn’t about becoming more mature; it’s about becoming more you.
- Practice your passion not to get results, but regardless of the results.
- Every time we practice our passion we need to ask, is my true self practicing this today, or my false self?
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Dr. Kelly Flanagan is a psychologist, author, consultant, and speaker who enjoys walking with people through the three essentials of a truly satisfying life: worthiness, belonging, and purpose. His blog writings have been featured in Reader’s Digest, The Huffington Post, The 5 Love Languages, and the TODAY Show. Kelly is the author of Loveable and True Companions.