“To live from our soul—the great, powerful, divine thing at the center of us—is, paradoxically, to become aware of our dependence on other souls. When the bad stuff happens, it’s a chance to rely on the good stuff in other people. And the people who bring the good stuff are the people we belong to.”
We find our places of belonging when we ask for help. However, in order to feel safe, be independent, and appear strong, we resist asking. In other words, to ask for help is to invite belonging, but we don’t send enough invitations. In Episode 30 of The Loveable Podcast, we talk about the limitations of our independence and the rewards of having the courage to ask for help.
Here are just a few of the takeaways from this week’s episode:
- True belonging may not be possible apart from the passing back and forth of grace.
- The people we belong to are the people who show up in our time of need, no questions asked.
- The people we belong to don’t show up for a crisis and then disappear; they linger, lovingly.
- Asking for help earlier in a time of need lightens the burden on everyone involved. Ask early. Ask often.
- Belonging is a paradox—it is the place where you feel safest, so it also becomes the place where you take the biggest and scariest risks.
- Letting go of the people we wish we could belong to always feels like grief.
- As we grow, our growth includes grace for those who aren’t growing at the same pace we are.
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Dr. Kelly Flanagan is a psychologist, author, consultant, and speaker who enjoys walking with people through the three essentials of a truly satisfying life: worthiness, belonging, and purpose. His blog writings have been featured in Reader’s Digest, The Huffington Post, The 5 Love Languages, and the TODAY Show. Kelly is the author of Loveable and True Companions.