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The Kindest Community
Humaning is the name of my online publication, and it’s where our community gathers to explore the complexities of human connection.
Everything that happens between human beings is influenced by everything happening within us, and what’s happening within us can feel like a mystery at best and a mess at worst. At Humaning, we sort out some of the inner mess and mystery, so we can bring the best of our humanity to the rest of humanity.
You can join for free more than 14,000 other human beings on the journey toward better belonging, or a community of hundreds of paying members who get customized guidance from me in our monthly Zoom gathering and our Relationship Lab.
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The Unhiding Of Elijah Campbell
Fiction isn’t only fun, it can be formative too. Through this page-turning and plot-twisting tale, you will be both inspired and equipped to show up more authentically in your most important relationships.
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True Companions
Find out how the three ordinary experiences that plague most relationships—loneliness, defensiveness, and distractedness—can be transformed into the fertile ground for enduring, lifelong companionship.
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Loveable
You are here for a reason, yet you cannot truly awaken to it until you have first embraced your truest, worthiest, most loveable self and then allowed yourself to be truly embraced by your people.
After reading Loveable, I knew we needed Kelly to present at our Front Row Dads retreat. His teachings are both profound and palatable. He hit a home-run.
Jon Vroman
Founder Front Row Dads, Author of The Front Row Factor
Kelly’s unique gift of reminding us how much we are loved has impacted our church, our marriages, and our love for God.
Troy Murphy
Lead Pastor, Green Bay Community Church, Former Chaplain to the Green Bay Packers
Kelly has found his own way to repackage the consistent stream of wisdom from the mystics and saints that have been overlooked and forgotten. His work will have waves of impact across current and future generations of humanity.
Ashton Gustafson
Host of The Good / True / & Beautiful Podcast
Kelly’s writing and work is an essential companion for those looking for a better way of being in this world. In both his writing and his work, his personal connection encourages you to do the work to become a better human and leaves you grateful for the encounter.
Kyle Bender
Director of Family Ministry, Westlake Hills Presbyterian Church
Dr. Kelly Flanagan is one of the kindest human beings I've ever met. His ability to connect quickly, collaborate consciously, and create exponential results in his work is truly world-class. Not only has he brought value to our events and our community, he has brought out the best in me and my team along the way.
Jeremy Reisig (a.k.a., brotha James)
Master Facilitator and Pop Rock Musician
Kelly Flanagan made fans of us with his wisdom, wit, and unfailing desire to help us see the very best in ourselves and in each other. It makes learning and evolving so much more rewarding (not to mention fun) when you're led by a trustworthy, compassionate, and wise mentor like Kelly.
Donna & Gary Urban
Founders, 4U Ranch
Kelly insightfully and open-heartedly describes the journey of becoming fully human. Life is messy. Self-doubt is abundant. Our egos are bossy. True selves go into hiding. Kelly Flanagan is walking this journey and has much wisdom to share along the way.
Dagmar Kauffman
Founder & Executive Director, On Balance Parenting
As the leader of a large mastermind organization, I’ve hired Dr. Kelly to work with our groups on several occasions. He had a tremendous impact at a three-day intensive couples retreat, and he’s helped highly successful (and stubborn) entrepreneurs create success in business and at home by discovering the power of vulnerability and awareness over just being smart and capable leaders. I am excited for Dr. Kelly’s next book and I can’t wait to dive in together with my wife.
Mike McCarthy
Regional Owner Keller Williams Greater PA Region, Co-founder GoBundance and Fambundance
THE THREE ACTS OF LIFE
Which one are you in right now?
Embracing your worthiness
You are worthy of love and belonging. Like all of us, somewhere along the way, you forgot this. It’s time to remember.
Building your belonging
Find your belonging by showing up as the person you are. Building your belonging by growing into the companion you can be.
Clarifying your purpose
Vocation, calling, purpose, meaning. It goes by many names, but whatever you call it, being clear about your reason for being here is at the heart of a satisfying life.
My Story
About Kelly Flanagan
I grew up in a small town in rural Illinois, and I got out of it as fast as I could because I figured the satisfaction we’re all looking for couldn’t be found in a cornfield. I went to the University of Illinois and majored in psychology before going to Penn State for graduate school. There, I met my lovely wife (who also happens to be named Kelly, as if life isn’t already complicated enough), we had our first child, and I earned a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. Then, I went on to become a successful therapist. I’d checked every box I could think of in search of a satisfying life, and yet true satisfaction still seemed somehow out of reach. That’s when I got depressed—really depressed—for the first time in my life. By 2011, I was asking the same question most of my clients were asking: there’s got to be more to life than this, right?
