“Yes, the extraordinary is a gift some of us receive at rare, fleeting moments. But our humanity is the ordinary gift we are, all of us, always receiving all the time.”
In Episode 43 of The Loveable Podcast, we are once again tackling the voice of shame, which undermines the practicing of our passions by convincing us that those passions must feel extraordinary, look extraordinary, and produce extraordinary results. By the end of this episode, you are going to be closer to discerning a path forward for yourself that looks ordinary and beautiful.
Here are just a few of the takeaways from this week’s episode:
- Awareness of our passions doesn’t happen in a moment of epiphany; it dawns slowly, like a sunrise.
- We don’t build resilience, self-esteem, and identity through uninterrupted success, but through failures that we learn how to survive.
- Quit chasing an extraordinary life; embrace your ordinary one, and discover a better kind of extraordinary.
- When we embrace our worthiness, our shame doesn’t die; it goes into hibernation until we begin embracing our passions, then it wakes up and tells us our passions must be extraordinary to be pursued.
- There is a simple joy in practicing our passions, not necessarily an extraordinary accomplishment.
- Embracing the ordinariness of life might not mean you will do something different with your life, but it will mean that you do it differently.
- When someone tries to shame your passion, responding with compassion for the shame out of which their condemnation arises can disrupt the cycle of aggression.
- Even when you’re hiding your passion from the public eye, the voice of shame within you is watching and ready to discourage you with a reminder of how extraordinary you “should” be.
- Real success is not excitement about what you’ve done but contentment about who you are.
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Dr. Kelly Flanagan is a psychologist, author, consultant, and speaker who enjoys walking with people through the three essentials of a truly satisfying life: worthiness, belonging, and purpose. His blog writings have been featured in Reader’s Digest, The Huffington Post, The 5 Love Languages, and the TODAY Show. Kelly is the author of Loveable and True Companions.