Week 27: The Essential Building Block of Belonging [Loveable 028]

“When our egos lose, our hearts win.”

In Episode 28 of The Loveable Podcast, we dive deep into the topic of empathy, including how essential it is for true belonging, and the five barriers to cultivating it and communicating it. It’s time to exchange protection for connection. It’s time to quit living from your ego and to start loving from your heart… 

loveable podcast episode 28

Here are just a few of the takeaways from this week’s episode:

  • In places of true belonging, you do not necessarily agree with the opinions of others, but you do honor the personhood of others.
  • In order to cultivate true belonging, you must replace certainty with curiosity, because curiosity drives out all judgment.
  • Belonging is cultivated during the hard and messy times, and it is ultimately felt when that hard labor eventually produces fruit.
  • Empathy is a gift to the other, and the gift we receive in return is a growing sense of belonging.
  • Hurry is the enemy of empathy.
  • When empathy is used for protection rather than connection, it is called codependency.
  • Empathy creates space for pain to exist, without pressure to immediately fix it.

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Kelly is a licensed clinical psychologist and co-founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL. He is also a writer and blogs regularly about the redemption of our personal, relational, and communal lives. Kelly is married, has three children, and enjoys learning from them how to be a kid again. You can find him on Facebook, Twitter, and Google+.