Week 25: The One Sentence That Can Change Your Love and Life [Loveable 026]

“I’m not going to worry very much about offending people anymore, which means I need you to tell me when I do, so I can think about it and decide if I need to apologize.”

This is the one sentence that can change the way you love and live. In Episode 26 of The Loveable Podcast, we explore the fine line between empathy and codependence, and how healthy emotional boundaries, rooted in our sense of worthiness, can help us to stay on the right side of that line. 

loveable podcast episode 26

Here are just a few of the takeaways from this week’s episode:

  • The dark night of the soul only leads us somewhere if we bravely continue to walk through it, one step at a time.
  • Sometimes we aren’t afraid of rejection, we are exhausted by it. But if we hope to find belonging, we must keep showing up, no matter how weary we are.
  • Just try to fail a little better next time; it takes the pressure off.
  • Empathy becomes codependence when responsibility for cultivating belonging is not shared in the relationship.
  • At first, worthiness gives us the courage to use our voice; as we mature, it also gives us the courage to hear when our voice has been hurtful.
  • There’s a difference—a huge one—between speaking your mind and speaking your heart.
  • Your true self is naturally caring and compassionate.

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Kelly is a licensed clinical psychologist and co-founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL. He is also a writer and blogs regularly about the redemption of our personal, relational, and communal lives. Kelly is married, has three children, and enjoys learning from them how to be a kid again. You can find him on Facebook, Twitter, and Google+.