Week 21: Finding the Fear Underneath All the Fury [Loveable 022]

“Anger isn’t an inherently bad thing. Anger becomes a destructive thing when we allow it to become a reactive thing instead of harnessing it as a guiding thing.”  

In Episode 21 of The Loveable Podcast, we focus on what to do with the anger around us and the anger within us. How do we know when anger is healthy versus unhealthy, and how do we relate to it in a way that produces wisdom and connection rather than pain and aggression?

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This week’s episode explores the following topics:

  • The importance of practicing vulnerability in safe spaces.
  • How creating a dialogue with the little kid inside of you can help you to overcome fear and increase your tolerance for vulnerability.
  • The difference between courage and foolishness when cultivating belonging.
  • What it looks like when the true self in you sees past someone’s anger and instead sees their true self.
  • Why hurting people hurt people.
  • The essential difference between forgiveness and reconciliation.
  • How the concept of ego helps us to disrupt negative escalation in communication.
  • How to progress through our various layers of protection to reconnect with our true self.
  • Why releasing our false self feels like a grieving process.
  • A practice for disrupting patterns of anger in relationships.

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Kelly is a licensed clinical psychologist and co-founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL. He is also a writer and blogs regularly about the redemption of our personal, relational, and communal lives. Kelly is married, has three children, and enjoys learning from them how to be a kid again. You can find him on Facebook, Twitter, and Google+.