Week 4: Self-Acceptance Is the Foundation of All Self-Improvement [Loveable 005]

What if all our efforts to improve ourselves are actually keeping us stuck, because, sometimes, self-help is just cleverly disguised self-rejection? And what if, sometimes, self-acceptance is the most helpful, most transformative thing of all? Welcome to Episode 5 of The Loveable Podcast, in which we read and discuss Week 4 of Loveable’s companion book,  which is available nowhere else…

loveable podcast episode 5

This week’s episodes includes:

  • Me admitting that I woke up feeling insecure and anxious about recording the podcast episode.
  • A fruitful conversation about what to do when your shame decides to visit you once again.
  • The important distinction between our inward journey and our outward journeys.
  • Why our culture of inspiration is really a cleverly disguised culture of self-rejection.
  • The key difference between being inspired to change yourself versus being inspired to accept yourself.
  • How self-acceptance ultimately leads to wiser and more peaceful change.
  • The reason the first three weeks came before this week’s topic and practice.
  • A challenge to quit consuming self-help for at least one week.
  • A recommendation about what to replace self-help with once you’ve taken a break from it.
  • How to help thoughts about your worthiness descend from your head to your heart.
  • A teaser about the next episode entitled, “Letting Go of the Solution to All of Your Problems.”

I began this conversation with anxiety and ended it feeling very peaceful. I think you will feel more peaceful after it, too, and I hope you will feel a new, better kind of inspiration. You can listen to the episode below, or on iTunes.

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Kelly is a licensed clinical psychologist and co-founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL. He is also a writer and blogs regularly about the redemption of our personal, relational, and communal lives. Kelly is married, has three children, and enjoys learning from them how to be a kid again. You can find him on Facebook, Twitter, and Google+.

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