Whoa, That’s Deep!

When we moved from the suburbs back to my rural hometown, I thought we’d be trading the cacophony of Chicagoland for the quiet of the country. And, in a way, we did. The thing is, the countryside wasn’t as quiet as I thought it would be. In a really good way…

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On a spring morning, the birds twitter and tweet and make a concert of their morning song. On a summer evening, the cicadas crescendo in the crowded trees, until, in the small hours of the night, they finally quiet, and the crickets take over, with their constant hum. On an autumn afternoon, dry leaves rustle in the treetops, and they skitter raspy along two-lane roads. In the winter, a snowfall can lay undisturbed for hours, and the muffled world fills your ears with the tinny ringing of your own blood rushing.

Underneath the loud and frenetic world we’ve created is a world that’s been created for us, and it moves to a deeper, slower rhythm.

I was recently asked, in an interview about Loveable, how do we start the journey toward wholeness? My answer was…space. Space to rest, to notice and to feel, to contemplate and to question. Space to move deeper into the wholeness that already exists, forgotten and neglected, somewhere within the depths of us.


As we live increasingly on-line, where depth is quickly going extinct, it can look like the desire for depth is dying, too. For instance, the comments section of a blog was once the place you went for meaningful conversation; now, it’s the place you go to troll people. Not so long ago, social media was where you shared content that stirred your thinking and your heart. Now, generally, social media is where you stir up controversy and conflict.

But the publishing of Loveable renewed my hope.

The desire for depth has not died and it has not even gone dormant. We simply don’t go to social media for it anymore.

Instead, for instance, we faithfully return to the pages of a book, where an author has spent years diving deep into a singular topic. And there’s a reason podcasting has exploded as a new medium: podcasts are long-form. Podcasts go deep.

In social media, we browse about; in books and podcasts, we burrow down. In social media, we value volume and variety; in books and podcasts, we value veracity. In social media, we seek immediate satisfaction; in books and podcasts we seek delayed gratification. In social media, we want all the bells and whistles; in books and podcasts, we want to hear the subtler music of truth and beauty.

In other words, some of us are slowly realizing we want to move back to a countryside of discussion and depth.

We want a place we can encounter not the false self that we have created out of fear, but the true self that was created for us out of Love. A place where we can have not the good life that everyone is chasing, but the beautiful life that is already available to us, right here, right now, if only we can slow down long enough to listen for it, to see it, to touch it, to taste it.

So, here’s the thing: contemporary wisdom says that, with a book recently published, I should be blogging more. I should be increasing the amount of my content, getting into your inbox more frequently, and giving you more chances to click through and buy the book.

But the wisdom of the ages says volume isn’t king; depth is.

So, I’m going to listen to that wisdom, and instead of increasing the amount of my content, I’m going to increase the depth of it.

How am I going to do that?

I’m going to reduce the frequency of my weekly blog posts to every other week. Same time. Same place. But I’m cutting the content in half. Then, we’re going to go deeper on one topic in particular: you, your life, your story—your worthiness, your belonging, and your purpose.

We’re going to deepen the conversation here, and we’re going to do it with a podcast—a podcast you participate in.

It is called The Loveable Podcast and in it we will be walking with each other once a week for one year through the companion book to Loveable entitled, The Year of Listening, Loving, and Living. How will we walk together? On Wednesdays at 9am CT—beginning September 27—we will gather on Facebook Live. I’ll read one chapter from the book, including an inspirational reading and a practice for the week, and we will dig into them together. We’re going to stop scrolling and we’re going to start discussing. The audio from that Live session will then be folded into a podcast episode and made available the following week.

Discussion equals depth.

I can’t wait to go deeper with you.

Let’s resist the temptation to look at more and more stuff in the digital world, and let’s look more and more closely at our life in the real world. The world where birds chirp and cicadas hum and leaves rasp and hearts beat. Let’s insist on depth. Indeed, let’s insist on moving deeper, into the bright abyss underneath all of our pain and mess and shame.

Let’s move deeper into your truest, worthiest, most loveable self.

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Loveable is available in paperback, digital, and audio and can be purchased wherever books are sold, so you can also purchase it at your favorite bookseller.

Kelly is a licensed clinical psychologist and co-founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL. He is also a writer and blogs regularly about the redemption of our personal, relational, and communal lives. Kelly is married, has three children, and enjoys learning from them how to be a kid again. You can find him on Facebook, Twitter, and Google+.

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  • Ginny

    Looking forward to this although I won’t be able to participate until mid to late October.

  • Mike Gates

    Smart. Very, very smart. I’m humming the RATM song “Take The Power Back” right now.

  • Veronica Brocher

    Where can we order the companion book? I have Loveable.

    • A. Julie

      It was only available as an e-book if you pre-ordered Loveable, but you’ll be able to hear a chapter each week w/ the podcast.

  • Marianne

    When I ordered Loveable, I thought the deal was that I would get the companion book for free. And now that you’ve mentioned it in your blog,I was reminded that I had intended to ask about it. BTW – love your blog.

  • Doreen Matheny

    I must applaud you here! And also thank you…not many are willing to take such a leap to interact with humans. I have been looking for just this for some time now and finally an answer to my prayers. We were created for relationship and yet we avoid it like the plague these days and opt for superficial shallowness. Did I mention I have been waiting for this to happen? I am grateful that someone cares enough to go deeper and listen to hearts. I think “Daddy” is pleased that one of His children heard His heart and responded…

    • Hi Doreen, I’m so glad this is what you’ve been wanting and that I can be a part of satisfying that desire!

  • Christopher Walker

    Is there any other way to participate in the live content outside of Facebook Live? Perhaps a YouTube live event? I recently made the choice to deactivate my Facebook and Twitter for exactly the reasons you mention above…and I am loving it too much to get back on to those forms of social media right now.

    • Christopher, I support your decision fully and suggest you don’t reverse it! I wonder if someone else would let you use their account to participate? We have a pretty solid routine on Facebook Live and wouldn’t want to disrupt it at this point.

      • Christopher Walker

        Good idea! I’ll see about borrowing my wife’s account.

  • A. Julie

    While I’m bummed at the reduction in quantity (because I liked my weekly reading habit; guess I’ll be reading the archives more!), I look forward to the quality and depth that will come along with having more time, as a writer, to reflect and process and develop ideas. I hope you’re contemplating writing at more length; I’d expect that plenty of folks will be happy to engage with them. Some ideas cannot be touched, much less teased out, in 750 words or less.

    • Thank you for these kind words. And yes, if I have any time left over to write, I’ll definitely be doing so, perhaps even working on another book!

      • A. Julie

        You’re welcome!
        I was just musing with regard to your writing here on the blog, really, but it sounds like you’ve got more projects cooking in the wings…

        • Thanks for the encouragement to do longer-form writing here on the blog, too. Why not, right?

  • mauricienne

    I have to say I am disappointed by this announcement…. I prefer reading over listening, and I enjoy the weekly blog! But i understand that this is a logical next step for you. Best of luck in this new format/endeavor.

    • The reading will still be there, Mauricienne, just not quite as frequently. Thanks for understanding, though!

  • Haha..we don’t like change very much, do we? I hope that this decision of yours rubs off on all of us..good for you..and good for us! Thank you Kelly!

  • Loan Nguyen

    I love your new approach to go deeper and to incorporate Loveable into this new revised format! YES! I look forward to being on the podcast September 27. Loan.

  • Eileen Howerzyl

    I will miss my early Wednesday posts. Your 9AM time and my time with a special group of people coincide.

    • I’ll still get them to you every other week, Eileen, and I hope to join you by your ears rather than your eyes every Wednesday. 😊

  • Doreen Myrfield

    Oh Kelly the thought of going deeper is both exciting and terrifying. I have to trust that as we and I journey through the process I will grow, be challenged and learn to live and live. Thank you for the push and encouragement to be open as I journey to understanding myself at a deeper level.

  • Kim Clausen Williamson

    Your heart to be more present with us and yourself is endearing. Your invitations to go deeper and discover beauty within is alluring. Your resistance to flow with the masses is commendable. Your True Self invites our true selves to come out and play. Thank you.
    I look forward to traveling with the team , that’s us, into deeper waters.

    • Kim, I’m so, so glad you are on board! Talk to you on Wednesday. 😊

  • Amber Crafton

    I love this! And the wisdom of the ages is definitely the best wisdom to heed! Maybe I’ll be able to join in sometimes, too!

    I know it’s an extra thing to do, but reminders about the FB Live sent out the day before might be helpful in getting people to join in. I know I always forget about it and don’t check my emails until after it’s over each day.

    I can’t wait to listen to the podcast and keep on this journey into the depths! Keep up the awesome work!