This Is the Difference Between Getting Rich and Living Richly

The following is an excerpt from my new book Loveable, which officially releases today!


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I was born to a drug dealer and his quiet wife.

When I was two, he was caught in the act and incarcerated, and by the time I saw him again, he had become a Christian. I was too young to remember any of it, but a lot changed after that. That’s when we started going to church on the weekends and, a little later, my parents started going to college during the week. Two tuition payments plus three children equaled eight years of scarcity. By the time I was in third grade, we were scraping by in a mobile home, with my mother working as a nurse at night and my father going to school during the day. What they did was heroic.

 Sometimes, heroism is not very glamorous. 

We had a television that broadcast mostly static, a car that couldn’t make right turns, and the constant trailer park fear of tornadoes. We had fights about grocery money. We had fights about every kind of money. We had a claustrophobic hallway that ended at a claustrophobic bedroom I shared with my brother. We had a basketball hoop down the street—an old rusted rim tied to a telephone pole with yellow twine. No backboard. No net. We had bullies who chased me home from the basketball court.

I usually got away.

We had a tiny bathroom in our trailer with a tiny bathtub. Sometimes we had hot water. Sometimes we didn’t. One night, when we didn’t, my dad had a little anger. My mom was at work, and he said he was leaving too. He tried, but I wrapped myself around his leg and wouldn’t let go. He stayed.

But my shame stayed too…

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REMINDER! Loveable is now available for purchase and, if you order it before this Friday, March 24, at 11pm CST, you will immediately receive a free bonus companion book. Click here to find out how to get the free bonus!

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Kelly is a licensed clinical psychologist and co-founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL. He is also a writer and blogs regularly about the redemption of our personal, relational, and communal lives. Kelly is married, has three children, and enjoys learning from them how to be a kid again. You can find him on Facebook, Twitter, and Google+.

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5 thoughts on “This Is the Difference Between Getting Rich and Living Richly

  1. How exciting!!!!!
    Oh my! The words moved me to tears! May God bless your book as a guide for many to find joy after suffering and deep healing that transforms their lives!

    • Grace, it feels entirely appropriate that someone like yourself, who is so aptly named, would be the lone commenter today. Thank you for your excitement, and your tears. 😊

      • Well now, then for that very reason, I have a little story for you from my morning. 🙂

        I gave a wise warning through a fierce whisper to my rebellious boy. He didn’t heed, but through fiery eyes, demanded, “Why are you yelling?”
        We left to walk.
        He splashed in the puddles, drenching his feet and dirtying my shoes as well. We journeyed, side-by-side in silence for twenty minutes. Then, finally, he stopped and through gentle eyes he looked at me and said, “Mommy, I’m sorry I was so angry. Will you please forgive me?”
        “Yes,” I answered and took his hand and we made our way back home together.
        You’ve just created an opus; incredibly, painfully and beautifully rendered. Today’s quiet response feels unexpected. I believe the ones beside whom you journey may need a little time, just like my boy did, to receive the gift of sacrifice you’re giving. Later, those who see they need it, will be glad. Today, it’s the Lord who is cheering for you, and celebrating the way you’ve written about his powerful healing, redeeming love. That’s Joy unsinkable! 😀

        • Grace, this story is beautifully lived and beautifully rendered here. I don’t think that’s the first time I’ve told you that. 😊 I love the image of how the quiet space you created gave him the space to find his way back to his truest self. Just lovely. Thankfully, I think it’s quiet around here today because everyone has been out ordering the book, reading it, and telling people about it. I’m so grateful for how everyone has responded!

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