The Top 10 UnTangled Posts of 2015

Here we are again. The last Wednesday of the year. The last UnTangled post of 2015. And, as has become tradition here at UnTangled, the year-end top-ten lists.

2015 top 10

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It’s been a quieter year around the blog. No appearances on the TODAY Show. No viral marriage post. No documentary filmings. This particular lap around the sun has been much more ordinary here at UnTangled. And it’s tempting, when things are quiet and the attention goes away, to wonder if you’re doing something wrong. So, this orbit through the solar system has been one continuous opportunity to call B.S. on that way of thinking.

To remember, when the attention goes away, our worthiness doesn’t.

Because it is eternal and unchanging.

To remember, working harder is a good thing, but a limited thing.

But loving harder has no limits.

To remember, life isn’t about chasing the extraordinary, but resting into the ordinary.

And finding magic there.

Most of my blog posts this year arose from that growing awareness. I’ve listed here the ten most popular posts (ranked by number of Facebook shares), and then, according to me, the best of the rest (that is, the ten I most enjoyed writing). And I’ve added a new list this year: the ten books I enjoyed reading most this year.

Thank you, each of you, for listening with me, to the voice inside of me that I translate into writing and for choosing to seek out that voice within you. I’m looking forward to spending 2016 with you. Even if it’s completely ordinary.

Especially if it’s completely ordinary.

The Top 10 UnTangled Posts of 2015:

  1. Karma Envelopes
  2. The Beauty of Being a Quitter
  3. The Only Real Secret to a Healthy Marriage
  4. The Last Marriage Post You’ll Ever Need to Read
  5. This Is How Christmas (and Life) Should Be More Like Halloween
  6. The Point of Life Isn’t to Be More Happy (It’s to Be More You)
  7. An Open Letter to Millenials About the Insanity of Marriage
  8. Why I Want My Kids to Be in Pain
  9. The Secret About Healing Nobody Wants to Hear (But Everybody Needs to Hear)
  10. How to Know Who Loves You Best

The Best of the Rest (According to Me!):

  1. Home is Where the Grace Is
  2. A Father’s Bucket List
  3. Dear Parents, Cut Yourself Some Slack
  4. What’s the Difference Between the Good Life and the Redemptive Life?
  5. Why Therapists Are Clueless
  6. Just Be a Person
  7. Dear Dad, You’re Doing It All Wrong (A Letter to Myself)
  8. Why We Should All Just Give Up
  9. Don’t Try to Be More Extraordinary, Just Try to Be More Human
  10. The 5-Minute New Year’s Resolution That Will Make All Things New

My Favorite Books of 2015

  1. Tattoos on the Heart: The Power of Boundless Compassion—Gregory Boyle
  2. Traveling Mercies—Anne Lamott
  3. Walden—Henry David Thoreau
  4. Carry On, Warrior: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life—Glennon Doyle Melton
  5. Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy—Donald Miller
  6. The Inner Voice of Love—Henri M. Nouwen
  7. The Little Prince—Antoine de Saint-Exupery
  8. Anam Cara: A Book of Celtic Wisdom—John O’Donohue
  9. Rising Strong: The Reckoning. The Rumble. The Revolution—Brene Brown
  10. Your True Home—Thich Nhat Hanh

Question: What were your favorite books, articles, or blog posts this year? Feel free to share them here so the rest of us can enjoy them! You can leave a comment by clicking here.

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Kelly is a licensed clinical psychologist and co-founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL. He is also a writer and blogs regularly about the redemption of our personal, relational, and communal lives. Kelly is married, has three children, and enjoys learning from them how to be a kid again. You can find him on Facebook, Twitter, and Google+.

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  • Ann E

    I think all humans should read “Tattoos on the Heart” by Father Gregory Boyle. It is also my favorite book. I had the privilege of hearing him speak two years ago and he has made a lasting impression on how I view others who are different from me, even the scary others. You can watch him online via the Homeboys Inc. website.

  • Kathi

    I have had the privilege to follow this ordinary (?) year, and still I marvel at seeing the insight so simply and succinctly put, about thoughts and frustrations that seek to wreck my walk. You are certainly sharing to one heart…but I’m certain there are many more us extra-ordinary’s out here in cyber land. Blessings of the New Year, good Dr.

  • jackiegb

    Thank you for sharing words that bring comfort, reason and hope in the midst of the storms. It’s meant so much to me this year. You are a blessing in my life. Wishing God’s richest blessings on you this coming year.

  • Lindsay Lee

    Your posts are the highlight of my Wednesday mornings. Thank you for your authenticity and for pushing us readers towards an attainable hope. Cheers!

  • Shel Llee Flexman-Evans

    My favorite book of the year came out at the very end: Presence by Amy Cuddy. I knew I was invested in exploring her ideas, but she surprised me with her vulnerability and the power of it. I bought this book for my Mr., but it’s been wonderful having it here for both of us.
    And thank you, Kelly, for guiding my morning thoughts every Wednesday. I love having this time for thinking about the small, ordinary things that take my breath away.

  • Gloria Boysal

    Dearest Kelly, as the year comes to a close I feel an overflow of appreciation for your sharing…so deep and real. From my heart to yours I thank YOU! As a blogger you inspire me to keep it real, so much so, I began a post with reference to one of your posts (if you would like to see the reference – http://www.gloriasconnecting.com/2015/04/moment-of-grace/ ). I read many blogs, and I have to say that yours is the one that always opens my heart. I sit in love and gratitude to you for sharing your heart felt truths. Bless you dear man. I wish for your New Year whatever delights your soul! In love and appreciation, Gloria

  • drkellyflanagan

    I’m so grateful for each of your comments. Thank you. As I start to get reconnected with the blog and this community after a holiday hiatus, I’m reminded how much I enjoy the good fortune of being connected in this way to so many good people. Ann, I think “Tattoos” is my favorite book of all time. And, Shel, I just bought Presence. Thanks for the recommendation! Gloria, I look forward to reading your post!