The Marriage Manifesto: Turning Your World Upside Down (Free eBook)

From the moment of birth, we are wired for relationship and connection. And for most of us, the search for authentic companionship culminates in marriage. But the reality rarely matches the promise. Approximately half of marriages end in divorce. And for those who remain married, the daily task of love can be challenging at best and excruciating at worst.

The Marriage Manifesto reveals why our best efforts in marriage so often fail:

The Marriage Manifesto

Cover Design: Kristin K. Vanden Hoek

Have you ever tried to wash the odor of chlorine from your skin after swimming in a pool? It’s almost impossible to do, isn’t it? When we swim in chlorinated waters, the ingredients are soaked into our fibers and only time and distance can rid us of them.

We swim through our lives in a global culture chlorinated by consumerism—the worldview in which everything can be commodified, or assigned a value based upon its usefulness to us. In our world, we are encouraged to ignore the intrinsic value of all things and to assign value to everything based upon what it will do for us.

And this worldview can saturate our marriages, as well, without us even realizing it. If we expect our marriages to meet our every need, when the “product” doesn’t deliver, we will fight to “customize” our spouses and ultimately trade them in for a “better model.”

Unfortunately, most approaches to marriage explore its complexities from within the consumer mindset. But if we hope to truly redeem our marriages, we must overthrow everything we have been encouraged to believe about what marriage represents. Our marriages must become a rebellion: a site of anarchy in a world dominated by a focus on self.

We must turn our world upside down.

The Marriage Manifesto is not a self-help book with a list of solutions or three easy steps to a satisfied marriage. It is a call to rebellion. It is the anti-self-help book, challenging us to turn our consumer world on its head and to make marriage the birthplace of a new way of living.

In The Marriage Manifesto, we will explore how sacrifice, commitment, unity, vulnerability, companionship, wonder, and gratitude are not simply attractive aspirations, but the ingredients of revolution.

Are you ready to participate in an insurrection?

For more information about the experiences that have shaped my thinking about marriage and for more details about the eBook, click here.

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Kelly is a licensed clinical psychologist and co-founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL. He is also a writer and blogs regularly about the redemption of our personal, relational, and communal lives. Kelly is married, has three children, and enjoys learning from them how to be a kid again. You can find him on Facebook, Twitter, and Google+.

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  • Deborah Suess Weaver

    I can’t find the do wenload, is it coming separately?

    • drkellyflanagan

      Hi Deb, I’m sorry you’re having trouble finding it! Are you reading the post in your e-mail inbox? If so, the link should be just below the text of the post and highlighted in blue. Check to be sure that your email has downloaded completely and if it hasn’t, click on the option to download the remainder. If you haven’t subscribed by email, just click on the link to subscribe and you will be able to download it that way. Let me know if you keep having trouble!

  • Dave

    Hey Kelly,
    I thought I had signed up for e-mails. Guess I didnt 🙂

    • drkellyflanagan

      Are you onboard now, Dave? 🙂

  • Jennifer Newell

    As always insightful.

    • drkellyflanagan

      Thanks, Jennifer!

  • Heather

    Read it quickly on my lunch break (yeah I’m a fast reader!) Will have to go back again through it slowly. But loved it!!! Thank you so much for sharing….

    • drkellyflanagan

      You’re welcome, Heather!

  • Cherrie Dudash

    I believe this is the absolute best book I’ve ever read about marriage. I printed it up and am going to have my boyfriend read it. We’re talking about marriage now so it’s the perfect time to share it. Everything you wrote is exactly how I’ve always felt that a marriage should be, but never found someone to agree. I think my bf is going to agree with it too! Thank you so much Dr. Flanagan!

    • drkellyflanagan

      Wow, Cherrie, that is high praise, thank you! I hope this sets the right tone for your relationship going forward. Blessings!